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Acts of Kindness Benefit Everyone
Jan 21st
Do you really want to be happy? Everyone I ask always says yes, but the gateway to happiness makes some of us frown. The gateway to happiness, is giving to others.
“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” – The Dalai Lama
Some of us may feel that, if we give too much our generosity will be taken advantage of by others, however people who seek to take advantage are in the minority. To quote Gandhi, “We must be the change we wish to see in the world.” Think about it, change has to start somewhere, so why not start with you and me, right now?
You can donate anything randomly, without seeking reward, and anonymously, without telling anyone. This is good for you, the universe, and those who receive your acts of kindness. Every time you give, you will receive even, if you are not looking for a reward.
Try it, and you will see what some call karma… the law of cause and effect. It works like this: For every action there is a reaction. Lets make sure the reactions to our actions are good ones.
Danny Thomas said, “All of us are born for a reason, but all of us don’t discover why. Success in life has nothing to do with what you gain in life or accomplish for yourself. It’s what you do for others.”
Share everything and you will achieve a legacy of kindness. Share nothing and people will, do their best, to forget you. When my life is over I will only leave memories in the minds of others, and I want them all to be good ones.
So, how much should you give? It can start with sincere, kind words, a note, a card, or a flower. You will find that your gifts or donations won’t make you poor. As a result of this, you will see most people, naturally, return kindness to you.
You should also take the time to be polite to all of the people who perform services for you, every day. Many people do not bother to say hello to the maid, janitor, parking attendant, or service clerk.
Once you do you may even learn their name, and you would be surprised how many of them will go out of their way to give you good service, just by addressing them by their first name.
If you establish sincerity and trust where ever you go, you will be loved by your fellow man. It is really that simple. As Mohammed said, “A person’s true wealth is the good he or she does in the world.”
How To Attract Everything You Desire Effortlessly!
Jan 9th
Wanna Be Simply Irresistible?
1. Create an environment that naturally pulls you forward so things like commitment and discipline are optional. Being pulled forward is attractive, pushing forward is not.
2. Over respond to every event. By over RESPONDING instead of over ACTING, you evolve into something that is very attractive.
3. Build reserves in every area of your life. Having enough is not nearly enough for you to be Irresistibly Attractive. Stop running your life on adrenaline.
4. Add value just for the joy of it. When you add value just because you enjoy it, people are naturally attracted to you.
5. Market your talents shamelessly. If you are embarrassed about what you do you’ll never be very attractive.
6. Become irresistibly attractive to yourself. How can you attract others if you dont feel irresistibly attractive to yourself?
7. Begin to live a fulfilling life, not just an impressive lifestyle. A great lifestyle is attractive, and attractive lifestyles can be seductive.
8. Deliver twice what you promise.When you consistently deliver more than was expected, new customers are drawn to you.
9. Unhook yourself from the future. Attraction works in the present, not in the future.
10. Eliminate delay. Time is expensive and delays are very unattractive.
11. Get your personal needs met, once and for all. If you have unmet needs, you will attract others in the same position. Needs are not optional.
12. Tolerate nothing. When you put up with something, it costs you, and costs are expensive and very unattractive.
13. Show others how to please you. Dont make them guess.
14. Endorse your worst weakness and shadow. When you accept and honor the worst part of yourself you are free and more accepting of others.
15. Sensitize yourself. The more you feel, the more you will notice and respond to the many subtle opportunities in the present.
16. Perfect your environment. Create an environment that brings out your brilliance versus one that drains you.
17. See how perfect the present really is especially when it is clearly not.
18. Orient exclusively around your values. When you spend your days doing what fulfills you, you are a magnet for attraction.
19. Simplify everything. Abandon the non essentials and leave room for you to attract.
20. Master your craft. Being the best at what you do is the easiest way to become successful.
21. Recognize and tell the truth. The truth is the most attractive thing of all, and it requires skill and awareness.
22. Be more human. When you are genuine, you are attractive.
Questions to ask yourself:
* What five opportunities are you leaving on the table?
* How might you sabotage our professional relationship?
* How have you been motivated in the past to reach difficult goals or make difficult decisions? How can we best utilize that motivation now?
* How would you do this differently if you were willing to let it be easy?
* What would happen if you showed up ten times more bolder this week in every aspect of your life?
* What are the 10 things you are tolerating or putting up with that are preventing you from performing at your best?
Go make it a great week, and thanks for all you do!
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Breaking the Bad Habits Of Failure
Dec 21st
I wanted to put this out today because I realized that in order to begin to have success one has to recognize the “Bad Habits of Failure”, and then begin to replace those habits with “The Habits of Success”.
People living today are extremely lucky. There’s more information available today than ever on Success, yet with all this information available to us, people still fail to become successful in life. Why is this? After all, there is so much self help information available telling us how to be successful, yet most people still fail to achieve success. Also, why do people still suffer from depression, when there are so many books telling them how to live a great life?
The fact is, information is not the problem, and no matter how much technology advances, people will always have the same problems.
What Are The Reasons People Fail To Achieve Success?
If you ask someone why they never succeeded in what they were trying to do, they will most likely tell you it was someone elses fault, or something happened that was beyond their control. However if you compare that persons life against someone elses life, you could probably find many examples of people who suffered under far worse conditions yet still became a success.
This shows us that the real reason people fail is not because of something outside of them, rather the reason lies within themselves.
Internal Reasons For Failure
When you continue to do the same thing over and over again it is called a habit. You are probably familiar with bad habits such as smoking, but are you familiar with the habits of failure or the habits of success?
Creating Habits Of Success
Since success or failure is ultimately achieved through the actions you take, habits therefore play a tremendous role in determining whether you will achieve success or failure in life. For example. If you read everyday, that is a habit. This habit is likely to expand your knowledge of a subject, and vastly improve the chances you will master and be successful at it.
However, lets say that instead of reading everyday, you prefer to sit down and watch TV for a few hours. Do you think this will help you master any subject? Or become an expert in your field? In all likelihood, the answer will be no.
So if you look at achieving success or failure in terms of the actions you repeat on a daily basis, then it is quite simple to understand why some people succeed, and others complain of failure. People who are successful continually do things on a daily basis that will increase their chances of success. Whilst unsuccessful people do not.
This does not mean successful people never fail, they do. But what they dont do is give up, because they have developed habits of success.
Change Your Habits!
The message you should take away from this article is that in order to experience change in your life you must first identify your habits. Think about what do you do on a daily basis, and ask yourself if those things help you achieve what you want in life?
If the answer is no, you must then change those habits, because by doing the same thing over and over again you will only get the same results over and over again.
What Can Confidence Do for You?
Dec 20th
Almost all successes and attainments in life come from your ability to feel certain that you can accomplish what you set out to achieve. Confidence is the gateway to success; to the life that you wish to lead and to the dreams that you desire to live.
With confidence you can boldly progress towards your ambitions and aspirations. With confidence you can rise up and handle lifes demands and challenges. You can tackle any hurdle and obstruction, and move on to the next step of your journey to fulfillment and achievement.
One of the principle requirements to anything you want to do in your life is confidence. Confidence is an indispensable part of your development, betterment, progress and success, both at a personal and professional level. With confidence you can forge ahead to fulfill your potential and perform at your peak level.
Having confidence is the crux that allows you to achieve your true potential in whatever situation; in your relationships, your work or career, your finances and your self-image.
When you experience a lack of confidence, it may stop you from striving for what you want. This feeling of lack of confidence can be the root of many complications and hardships that block you from achieving your desires. It can be like a large thorn that continually bursts the bubble of desire.
There may have been times when you have felt a level of confidence when you were engaged in an activity that you were good at; such as driving a car, being a parent or managing your team. At those times you would have displayed a high level of certainty, which is a form of confidence.
However, there may have been other circumstances where you found that you felt less confident. On these occasions, you would achieve a fraction of what is truly possible for you. With determination and focus to pursue and gain confidence, you can develop the strength and fortitude to climb out of the depths of any circumstances, and take advantage of the opportunities and successes that lay ahead of you.
In the same way that you have learned to lack confidence, you can also learn to have unlimited confidence. And the simplest and quickest way to kick-start the engines of your brain, is to know and accept that confidence can be an acquired process; it can be learned and formatted to suit all moments.
As your confidence increases, you can take a front row seat in mastering many areas of your life. You will find that you become more and more comfortable and confident in multiple areas, including:
Moving ahead in your career.
Starting your own business.
Embracing the risks of every day life.
Refusing to be held back by fear.
Creating circumstances rather than waiting for them.
Dramatically improving your health.
Successful and dynamic people have gained mastery on how to feel courageous and confident. When you develop and build on your own confidence skills, you, too, will feel and become a different person. You will feel much more enthusiastic, motivated and determined in every aspect of your life.
Once you improve on the way you think and feel about yourself, your beliefs and your actions will follow. You will confidently overcome the challenges that life thrusts upon you and you will manage them with new-found belief and faith in your capability to do so.
As you become more confident you abandon worry, hesitation and, more importantly, you side-step fear. The focus here is on your whole being, every part of you; your thoughts, the images in your mind, your emotions, and ultimately your behavior and the actual outcomes in your life.
Bear in mind that as you focus on change, change does begin to happen. It is fun, motivating and very rewarding to feel and see yourself growing and improving and becoming more confident and effective day-by-day and week-by-week.
There is great power in believing that you can succeed in your quest for greater confidence. With awareness and consistency, this is attainable. Your confidence can stretch beyond any measurable scale and further still, knowing no boundaries.
Just think what you can do with all the confidence that you can have!
Are You Giving Happiness?
Dec 17th
We all want happiness. We all need appreciation. We all crave for recognition. We all want to be applauded. We all desire to be called as good and lovely human beings. We are all looking for this certificate from our friends, family and our partner. This makes us happy. This makes us feel good about ourselves. This gives us new confidence in ourselves. This all gives us a new and positive self esteem, which is very important.
How to get it? Let us do all this for others. If no one is praising us, let us praise others. Let us do all that we want others to do to us. Let us give love, affection, appreciation, and let us applaud others even for a very small victory. Will this help us? It helps us immediately. The first feeling we get after doing a good deed is feeling of satisfaction. This raises our self esteem in our own eyes. This makes us feel good. By making others happy, we get happiness. So let us become proactive and get all we want by not asking for it, but giving it.
What will happen to others when they get such praise from us? They will feel very happy. They will be happy with us. They will like us even more. They will like to do something in return. They will do all that we have been wishing for. Send happiness to get happiness. The shortest route to a lovely life.
Happiness is a state of mind, when one feels contented with oneself. One feels cheerful with one’s life and circumstances. Remaining unhappy is not our goal in life, but happiness is our goal. If we are not happy, life become a burden. One lives, but only because one has no choice. Why not make happiness a part of everyday living?
Helping Others Find Inner Peace
Dec 16th
People with pessimistic attitudes go through their lives fighting their thoughts and emotions every day. If they are rejected for a job position, they feel that they are not good enough to have any job. They start to think that everyone believes they are stupid, and the cycle of pessimism traps them into psychological immobility. In fact, everyone experiences rejection at some time during their lives, but when your mind focuses on the negative aspects of a situation, it is hard to find inner peace.
The first step in finding inner peace is to think carefully about your goals. What are you trying to achieve, and what are you doing that will take you there? Can you realistically reach your goals, or are you setting goals that are far beyond your reach? Do you have any goals? By putting your priorities in order, you will be on the path to peace because only chaos can result from clutter and disorganization of the mind. You can start by setting small goals that can be easily achieved. Then, instead of focusing on failure, you can see the good job you’ve done in reaching your goal. If you fail to reach a goal, use this situation to learn how to do better next time. Dont wallow in your failure.
When you feel good about yourself, you will have an easier time finding peace of mind. Peace is essential for happiness. If you constantly feel sad, you are living under a great weight that brings you down to a point where you could sink into a permanent state of self-pity. Self-pity only encourages negative thinking. Remember, you are not the only person facing rejection or hurt in life. There are other people much worse off than you are. People with negative thinking miss out on inner peace because they let every little setback throw them off track. They criticize themselves for no real reason and go down a road that only leads to misery.
Sometimes, hearing the word no is a good thing. If youve lost out on a job, maybe that is for the best. What if you had been awarded a job position only to find out that it was not what you really wanted, or that you couldnt do it as well as you thought? Of course, maybe you like being involved in situations that may lead you to harm. Maybe someone says no to you to keep you from hurting yourself. Maybe they say no because they love you.
Every life is full of rejection, so we would do well to turn our rejections into positive actions. Taking action can lead you to inner peace because activity makes you feel more positive about a situation. Positive attitudes result in peaceful states of mind. If you are feeling bad about yourself all the time, you need to break the cycle and get out of the habit of doing so. You can train your mind to think more positively. It will take work and effort, but it will lead you to inner peace, and this will be worthwhile.
